Monday Mimisms with Mimi Queen of Memes ~ What I Know About Love

If I had to write a book on love it would be of the sea. I like to swim in deep waters. But it's time I stopped pretending that a mermaid fairytale is what I need. Half of my life is gone and the best half is still ahead. Surely I've learned something about romantic love. I think it's time to anchor down a few mimisms on the subject at hand. On childish love: reams of poetry I wrote. Married love: over and done with. Lusty love: had my jump off the pheromonal bridge. Mature love: I swam in that stream as well.

There's wisdom in all four.
Sometimes I needed a lifejacket; other times just a new sharpie.

Each relationship has brought its own nirvana, its own dip into transitory hell and its own exhilarating power. Twenty years ago, ten years ago, even five years go......what I've learned is how little I knew. One might argue only half from the half-faced woman. I do not have all the answers. But these things I know for sure.

So far.... This is what I came up with today in my quest for succinct mimisms on the subject of love. I hope I've paid attention to all the right things.

1. Even though I am content and happy with my life as it is, I know that I am my best self, my deepest self, my truest self and my most creative self....

when I am in love.

2. Charm is amazingly akin to enchantment. Enchantment is dangerously close to love. I no longer run from the spell.

3. Forgiveness is not hard when you truly love.

4. I believe that people are drawn to each other as planets are drawn to orbits.

5. The comfort of his hands in my hair or the heat of his stare on my skin, can erase any word said in anger and make me forget why I needed his touch to begin with. The most profound things in life can't be uttered.

6. All of the lessons I learned falling in and out of love finally tumbled into two very important words. I will.... I will..... I will.....

7. Authentic and deep love scares the living bejeebus out of most people....because it requires that I forget who I am and what I want for awhile, to attend to the wishes and dreams of someone else.

8. There is a certain wildness to real love.
Don't tame it.

9. Sometimes love comes to unravel us.
Let it.

10. I spent an awful lot of time trying to find the right fit, the perfect man, the right circumstances. I've spent too much time building walls when I should have been opening doors.

11. Mystery is an aphrodisiac. I would be bored with a man I'd finally "figured out."

12. I don't think people have trouble attracting love to themselves. I think they have trouble recognizing it when it arrives.

13. When I am in love I see nymphs in the grass and twinkling stars in the day sky. No one else sees them, but I do. Why do I close my eyes in the night?

14. Music and sex are of the same vibration. Listen.

15. If you have to speak everything I need to hear, I will finally tune you out.

16. Between lovers, silence is intoxication. Drink it.

17. A man who can make me laugh - lights my candle.

18. To boldly dance with the dark side of another human being is to know them courageously. Their courage, not yours. When you trust your demons in the hands of the one you love, that's the beginning of intimacy. The journey to the light - together - is the end of innocence.

19. If you hold my hand, I can weather most storms.

20. Men are givers. It has taken me a long time to really learn how to receive. That is a joy to most men - not a burden.

21. Unconditional love is the mirror of grace.

22. Authentic romance is full of reverence, sacredness and trust. Romance and reverence won't survive independently. They need each other. And they so far excel the overused and tired "respect each other" cliches.

23. I want a man who can forgive my mistakes, because I surely will make them. I need a man who is not afraid to make mistakes either. Perfection is so overrated.

And on a humorous note.....

24. If I sigh during romance he wants to know what he did right. If I sigh in the kitchen he wants to know what I did wrong. (Only regular readers of this blog will appreciate this!)

That's it for my love secrets.

Shhhhhh!! Don't tell the guys....

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