Twenty-thousand readers later, Smooth-Talking Sam is now the talk of the town. Thanks to a website called dontdatehimgirl.com or DDHG, not to be confused with Manhaters.com - one and the same - somebody's mama is wondering how her sweet innocent Sammy got his face plastered on the cyber wall. Apparently it's no secret to the rest of the world. And I do mean the WORLD, which has now seen his smiling face and heard all the dirty little details of Sam's love gone awry........and of course, it's Sam's fault.
Defender of free speech, I am. Do I think that people have the right to creatively and honestly express themselves? Of course! So here goes.....Dontdatehimgirl.com is Jerry Springer cyber-style; except in this forum the men aren't throwing the punches and they must endure the embarrassment of having their very personal sins made public. Posts are usually signed "anonymous" or "unhappy" or "out of touch" (no, I just threw that in) while the postERS retreat smugly into oblivion and the postEES have little to say. After all, mug shots are hard to miss, impossible to refute. And no matter how exaggerated or contorted the "facts" may be, it's OUT THERE. It's printed. It's done. Indelible.
Does anyone else find this offensive?
I do suspect the majority of these stories have a great deal of accuracy and truth, that's the sad part; but infidelity and "moral sins" cannot be attributed to one sex alone. One man's lack of kindness or even abundance of emotional cruelty does not belong solely to the male gender and could just as easily, and often is, doled out by women. In this new wave of investigative dating, individuals are judged and convicted through the eyes of fury or rejection. Pain lashes out and the cycle does not stop.
No mistake about it - I, too, have been lied to and royally dumped. Who hasn't? But never in my wildest dreams would it occur to me that I must on my duty-bound honor as a member of the "sisterhood" of scorned Sallies and Sues, post his name, address and photograph for all the world to see. The site's mission claims to have the best interest of women at heart, the assumption being that we ALL want to sing in the loud chorus of man-hating women across the world. Not so.
If this is sisterhood, I want no part of it.
I have to wonder.
Who is the victim here? The guy whose reputation is potentially ruined by the vindictive click of a mouse or the sassy "sister" who chose to make herself a victim -yet again.
**Addendum: After legal action ensued, the site removed the database of men and has redirected its focus toward dating advice for women.**
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