There are times in your life when external forces beyond your control seek to destroy and steal the peace within. And even though you try, they seem impossible to ignore. People you love get sick, your world goes topsy turvy, and just when you think you can't take anymore, something else happens. When nothing makes sense and in a second everything makes sense and you are left with a truth so startling and irretrievably sad that it makes you physically sick. Have you ever had those moments of absolute clarity about a situation, a person, an unanswered prayer for a loved one or a lingering question in your mind.....and wish the answer had been anything than the one you got?
I do know this. There will be people there to hold you up. Sometimes others swoop in at your most vulnerable point to tear you down but I've learned it's best to hold on to the first group and toss a passing sympathetic glance to the second.
What do you do when the world makes no sense and unsettling things happen despite your every effort to ignore the changing temperature inside your personal peace barometer? Here's what I do.
1. I take a walk
2. I rant to trusted friends who know how to talk some sense into my pencil head. Then I take another walk.
3. I internally DELETE all the junky vibes and move on. Some literally go down in the trash bin of life. If only I had a magic button that would delete all the "yuk" from my life (ie: dirty dishes, flat tires, silly annoyances). Oh wait. I do! I went to college to learn that word ya know. YUK 101. It's a scientific fact that Yuk clogs up the joy.
Who needs that? Click.
4. I put on my shades...
And talk to my best friend Barbara or my sister and others. Their perspective always makes me see things in a new light. They see through my lens. I look through theirs. I usually find another shade to ponder.
Wanna borrow them?
5. I hide in an antique store.
6. And if all else fails....
*Photography credit: Mimi Lenox*