Sunday, February 1, 2009

What I Still Know About Love (#18 )

Each relationship has brought its own nirvana, its own dip into transitory hell and its own exhilarating power. Twenty years ago, ten years ago, even five years go - what I learned is how little I knew. One might argue only half from the half-faced woman. I do not have all the answers. But these things I know for sure.

In my quest for succinct mimisms on the subject of love, I hope I've paid attention to all the right things. Here's #18.....


To boldly dance with the dark
side of another human being is to know them courageously. Their courage, not yours. When you trust your demons in the hands of the one you love, that's the beginning of intimacy. The journey to the light - together - is the end of innocence.

Any relationship worth its salt requires that you travel both.





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23 comments:

Ricardo said...

Beautifully said. Intimacy is a elusive and scary thing due to the trust involved.

Mimi Lenox said...

Trust...now that's elusive....
(but I'm working on it.)

Mojo said...

Heh. Yeah, I'd say that about sums it up. Half of it anyway ;)

So BlogBlast has now been officially upgraded to annual status? I know you were thinking about it, didn't know if you'd made a final decision on it.

Mimi Lenox said...

Mojo - I smell cynicism....

P.S. I'm going to post the "whys" of the peace globe change later this week. It's all good.

Mimi Lenox said...

Men hate mushy posts, don't they.....yeah...that's what I thought...... I feel a migraine coming on. My brain is mush.

Jeff B said...

Knowing when that level of trust can be extended can often times be quite the balancing act. Fortunately, I've found a soul mate with which I can share these things.

Mark said...

What you said today is very wise, yes, both paths converge to make it all happen!

Mimi Lenox said...

Jeff - You are indeed blessed and fortunte!

Mimi Lenox said...

Mark - There must be an openness and willingness for the man I'm with to open up to me and to hear what I have to share as well. That is hard for many people but I've lived long enough to know that our greatest desire and joy, really, is to be "known" by another as we know and love ourselves - not for validation, but communion and partnership as it should be. Anything else is surface love and full of frustration.


It really is all about one word - Trust.

Charles Gramlich said...

It is very very scary to share your demons.

Akelamalu said...

I'm grateful I have found it all.

Mimi Lenox said...

Charles - It really is!

Mimi Lenox said...

Akelamalu - Smile.

bundleocontradictions said...

There's hope for me yet! Poor Hubby & I do better than I think we do. Twice last week he complimented me. I only had to ask once. This afternoon he decided to be late to work to bring his possibly-diabetic wife her "baby meals" because she forgot them on the kitchen counter. I now feel bad for being so...cynical about us lately. When I remember to remember, I have to realize how much he puts up with. Thanks for reminding me, Your Majesty.

Travis said...

Well said.

meleah rebeccah said...

"When you trust your demons in the hands of the one you love, that's the beginning of intimacy."

yeah, until they LEAVE you because of those past demons.

*sigh*


Yep. I am still bitter about my recent break up.

RennyBA said...

Thoughtful post and I was reminded of the word: Vulnerable.

Don said...

Trust is indeed a difficult thing to cultivate in a relationship. Having the courage to be that open and to share - well, I sorta spill it all out there in my blog, but I fully acknowledge that I (like you) tend to be the exception rather than the rule in that area.

Remember, though: this is something that can exist in a friendship as well as in a relationship. I have that with a few people in my life, and I cherish it dearly.

Mimi Lenox said...

Autumn - Take care of yourself dear.

Mimi Lenox said...

Travis - Thank you.

Mimi Lenox said...

Meleah - You need a LOT more time. Be patient with yourself.

Mimi Lenox said...

Renny - Vulnerable is my favorite word.

Mimi Lenox said...

Don - It certainly can exist in a friendship and sometimes, on a much deeper and truer level.

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