Tuesday, February 13, 2007

You Had Me At Constantly


It's Valentine's Day 2007.

The first one in ages that I could actually celebrate with a certain someone. The first time in ages I've stopped at the card rack to read Hallmark schmaltz. The first time in forever that I felt cutesy cards were inadequate to describe my Valentine's Day.
It is not memorable because it's our first Valentine's Day together.
The fact is, we're not together.
We are geographically seven hundred miles apart.
And yet somehow, we are together.

There is a guy in New England whom I adore.
You know him. But you do not know him as I have come to know him in the past few months - a personality with complicated layers of serious intelligence, passionate convictions and an endless supply of laughter. We do not always agree on everything philosophically but that has proven to be refreshing and challenging.

I am concerned - as my grandfather once said to me - with what beats on the inside and how closely the walk matches the talk.
You may have noticed that he is not one to mince words. What you may not know is how carefully he chooses them. I respect that and have learned that he means what he says.


Can you keep a secret?

I wouldn't want him to know, but a while back I decided to "research" his site chronologically from start to finish. I wanted to find out what makes him tick. How many people do you know who've recorded forty years of their life online for all to see? I've never gathered that much insight into anyone I dated before I actually met them. How unusual.
It was perfect! And it was unsettling........

I did not expect to fall in love with a blog.


He had a handsome boyish charm about him that reeked of mischief and intrigued me (shhhh....that's the secret). A certain consistency and confidence I was drawn to. I continued to read until I'd finished over 200 articles. In between the pages of blog posts about crazy parties and DJ stunts, dating disasters and semi-sarcastic humor there were tributes to his children and touching posts of honest emotion. There were photographs from the seventies - that was my time, too - that seemed to weave a nostalgic familiarity for me. He was more than someone I wanted to get to know. He was someone I liked.

Well, truth be told....there was that tight jeans picture that might have swayed my rational thinking for just a minute. But I digress.

In the most unlikely of places I stumbled into someone who makes me feel like his Valentine every day. He totally gets me.

And we met on a blog.

Our relationship is not convenient. It is not ordinary. It is not the usual dating scenario. But we are just crazy enough - and creative enough - to make it work. We also know that this kind of "accidental meeting" does not happen everyday. Nor does this uncanny connection. To ignore the possibilities would be insane.

Timing - for us- has been incredibly perfect in every respect. Even, at times, mysteriously so. And tonight was no different.

Just as I was writing my Valentine's Day post and struggling with the question of how much to share with the blog world, wondering if he would welcome it or squirm to see a juvenile mushy post from his very grown-up lady, he called.

After some lengthy conversation about the day's events he said, "I've been working on a special project. I want you to see the project I've been working on all evening."
Imagine my surprise when he told me about a post he'd written.
About us. Boldly penned. For Valentine's Day. Just for me.
In front of the world.

"I just published it," he said.
(Now girlfriends.....how long do you think it took me to fly over to his site?)
He titled it My Valentine's Story.

He held the phone.
I read it.

I cried.

Not because it is Valentine's Day sweet. Not because it is romantic - although it certainly is. Not even because it is thoughtful and well-said and brave - it is all those things. But because the real life person spoke to me, Mimi Lenox, from his heart. Like he always does.

Way back in the beginning I wasn't sure if my Prince was flirting with me or not. At first glance I wasn't sure we had enough in common fundamentally or philosophically to even risk a flirt. It wasn't until I started to get to know him as someone other than  the Irreverent Humor Blog persona, that I realized how much we indeed had in common. Then late one night in a phone conversation I paused and asked..... "Are you flirting with me?"
In that deep radio voice I've grown to love he replied,
"Constantly."

Happy Valentine's Day, my Prince. You had me at constantly.
And to answer your question....Yes, I will be your Valentine.
What a silly question.



Update: Can someone say over? My how things change and change and change...and then change again. Life is just full of twists and turns.

18 comments:

Lizza said...

*sniff sniff*

That was so touching, Mims! I'm very happy for you and Bud. I read his Valentine post about you, and I loved it. All hail love, friendship, and the meeting of two minds (and hearts).

Now, where's the tight jeans pic? ;-)

SGT DUB said...

Now that was sweet, and I have to head over to his sight to see his side of the story, hehe,

Sanni said...

Awwwww.... so sweet!

Happy (belated) Valentine´s Day to both of you =)

Bud Weiser, WTIT said...

Am I there yet??

Turnbaby said...

I could just say AWWWWWW

But I think I am just going to add a smile and I am so happy for you and as Lizza said "all hail love"

Enjoy y'all--it's so wonderful.

Bond said...

Beautiful Mimi

May you both have a fantastic weekend.. I know of long distance romances, and though they can be difficult... they can be SO worth it

Mimi Lenox said...

Lizza - Thanks. He is very special. Share the jeans pic? Ha!

Mimi Lenox said...

SGT - He surprised me with his Valentine post. I must admit I was speechless (for a change).....

Mimi Lenox said...

Sanni - Thank you and I hope your Valentine's Day was special as well.

Mimi Lenox said...

No, Bud.
12 hours left.....if all planes fly as planned.
Somebody please stop the snow!

Mimi Lenox said...

Turnbaby - This will be interesting. He is landing on my Southern turf soon. I think I may have to treat him for culture shock.

Mimi Lenox said...

Bond - Thank you, Bond. We will have ten days together. All will be well unless I poison him with my cooking or he is attacked by mny vacuum cleaner. I locked it in the basement.

Lexa Roséan said...

I read both your posts. pretty amazing! I can see the film version in the works...

Empress Bee (of the High Sea) said...

oh how very sweet honey...

smiles, bee

madd said...

There is nothing left to say after reading yours and Buds posts..love certainly is alive and well on this Happy Valentines Day..all the best to you both and I just love the story of how each of 'you' became a 'we'..love ya..m

Terra Shield said...

So sweet...

:D

that frolicsome kid said...

Wow, this is a very sweet and unique relationship you and Bud have. =) It's great to read it! =D Happy belated Valentine's Day to you two. =)

Annelisa said...

You got it bad, girl! :-D

And how good is that!!?! :-)

You read over 200 posts? phew, bet that took a while... but what a way to find out about the man of your life!! It's not often we can find out anything, let alone so much... cool!

Well, I hope you enjoyed your valentines together, apart!

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